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Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Close Knit Couples Pray Together

Photo By Kevin Rawlings

 I’m sure you’ve heard the clichés before; “A couple that prays together stays together.” “It is hard to stay mad at someone you are praying for.” And so they go. When my husband met Ian Paisley (the controversial preacher and politician of Northern Ireland) a few months before our wedding, he asked the Reverend for marital advice. His top piece of wisdom? “Every morning when you get out of bed, get down on your knees and pray with your wife, and let the first words that your eyes see be the Word of God.” Although we may not agree with Mr. Paisley on everything, that is some pretty excellent advice.

If the Bible commands us to “pray without ceasing,” “in every place,” and assures us that where two or three are gathered, Christ is in the midst of us, don’t you think our Heavenly Father envisioned husbands and wives praying together? The clichés I referenced have become clichés with good reason, and deserve our earnest application, because they are true. Here are some of the benefits of praying as a couple:

    1. Prayer opens communication- Niall and I have found that as we spend time in prayer together (each morning and evening), we spend more time just chatting with each other before and after. Some of our best conversations come after times of prayer. If we’ve prayed and gotten our hearts right with the Lord, we are free to communicate honestly, humbly and lovingly with one another. 

  2. Prayer makes us vulnerable- When you speak to God, you are baring your heart, soul and mind to the Creator who sees and knows all. Sitting with our spouse as they do this and we do eliminates barriers that might exist in regular speaking with each other. Being vulnerable and open with your spouse is essential to building trust and affection. 

    3. Prayer is a reflection of what is in our heart of hearts- This builds on point two. Are you wondering what’s on your husband’s mind? Pray with him and find out, as you listen to him sharing it with the Lord. Do you wish he had a window into your soul? Again, prayer can be that window for your husband.

4. Prayer unites us to God and each other- As we seek the Lord, we are drawing near to Him. If two people are drawing near to God, they are simultaneously drawing nearer to one another as well. 

    5. Prayer focuses our priorities- Our relationship with God must always be our first priority in life. When we put the Lord first as a couple by setting apart specific time for prayer together, we are saying that God matters the most in our marriage. The Lord will honor a couple who makes this commitment. 
6. Prayer sanctifies us- Have you ever allowed your sin to cloud your relationship with God throughout the day? I am ashamed to admit this is the case with me all too often. When I sit down with Niall at the end of the day for prayer, many times I’ve said, “Honey, why don’t just you pray tonight.” This really means, “Honey, I’m not right with the Lord and don’t think I can talk to Him right now.” Fortunately my husband is wise enough to understand. His gentle prodding helps me to repent and restore my relationship to the Lord through audible prayer. The Lord has used my husband as a tool for sanctification in my life through prayer. 

I urge you to commit to praying with your husband daily! Just see if it doesn’t draw you closer to your husband and closer to the Lord.

“You have said, ‘Seek my face.’ My heart says to you, ‘Your face, Lord, do I seek.’”


  1. So true! This is a much needed discipline. Tim and I have been trying to do this more together recently, as we are not always regular in our prayer together. Thank you for the encouragement. :)

  2. I love your six points. I'm not yet married but these seem like wonderful things to remember later on.

    1. Glad you enjoyed it :). We have definitely experienced the benefits of prayer in our marriage! And I wish I had known these things before I got married.

  3. Oh, Rachel, you are speaking something I really need right now. I love the part about vulnerability. Wonderful words of truth.
    TY for linking up.

    1. Glad you were encouraged :). Thanks for hosting!!


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