/**/ The Purposeful Wife: November 2012

Friday, November 30, 2012

Blessing Your Husband This Christmas

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I am extremely excited today, because my first post as a monthly contributor for A Biblical Marriage has gone live ;)! Pop on over to this new and wonderful resource for couples seeking to form Christ-centered unions and check it out, if you haven't already!

Today I'm talking about ways you can bless your spouse at this busy (yet wonderful) time of year. Things like planning ahead, keeping things simple, and choosing contentment... you'll have to click on over here to read the rest.

You also might be interested to know that A Biblical Marriage is giving away a free ebook, 25 Days to Christmas: Family Oriented Ways to Focus on Christ to all email subscribers.

Head on over to check it out!

What special things do you do to encourage your husband around the holidays?

Thursday, November 29, 2012

Why I Am Ridiculously Excited About Classical Education @ Home!


Recently I finished reading (yes, all 800 pages of) Susan Wise Bauer and Jessie Wise's book, The Well-Trained Mind: A Guide to Classical Education at Home. Can I just tell you that this book made me beyond excited about starting homeschool in four years??? I am working ahead peoples...

In lieu of a review, I thought I'd share all of the reasons this book excited me, and why I am leaning towards a classical education in general.

It is super organized. I love the order of this system, and the complete and thorough directions the authors gave in their book. Classical education is based on the Trivium- three stages of learning that take advantage of a child's interests, natural to his or her age.

Stage one is the Grammar stage, grades 1-4. In the grammar stage the focus is on memorizing and learning basic facts, since this age group loves to parrot and is still excited about learning and trying to impress adults ;).

The second stage is the Logic stage, grades 5-8. At this time, children are turning into adolescents who question everything, are prone to debate, and just want to know why. The Trivium takes advantage of this stage by teaching the art of logic (reasoning and debate), and focusing more on why things happened in history, or why math and science work a certain way, instead of just learning the facts. 

Finally, the third stage is Rhetoric, grades 9-12. If you recall your high school days, you might remember them as a time when you were very concerned about your appearance and how you came across to others. Acknowledging this reality in high school students, the Trivium trains them how to present information they have gleaned in a coherent and polished fashion.

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It is repetitive. Classical education is also very well-ordered in its proposed curriculum. Throughout the student's twelve years of schooling, they will repeat the same order of study three times.

As proposed by Jessie Wise and Susan Wise Bauer, history, science, and math are divided into four major time periods: Ancients (5000 B.C.-A.D. 400), Medieval to Early Renaissance (400-1600), Late Renaissance to Early Modern (1600-1850), and Modern (1850-present).

Children will learn about the ancients in grades 1, 5, and 9; medieval-early renaissance in 2, 6, and 10; late renaissance-early modernity in 3, 7, and 11; and modernity in 4, 8, and 12. The first time around they will get very basic facts, adding to their expanding knowledge the second and third times. This rhythmic pattern really allows ideas and concepts to stick more permanently.

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It is cohesive. During 1, 5, and 9th grades, students will study Biology, as this is the science most understood by people in the ancient period. Grades 2, 6, and 10 will explore Earth Science and Astronomy; 3, 7, and 11 Chemistry; and 4, 8, and 12 will do Physics and Computer sciences. So even what my child is learning in science class will match what they are learning in history. Each subject will correspond to the period of history being studied (art, music, math, etc.).

I love this, because so often in school it felt like each class was a random conglomeration of facts- memorized for a test, and quickly forgotten. When different subjects are bridged together, and a student is making connections with how they relate to each other, it will be easier to remember and understand (for the long-term) the information that is being taught.

This is quickly turning into a book.... To Be Continued next week!

Tuesday, November 27, 2012

A Feast of Giveaway Goodness!


This week the group of women I blog alongside are hosting a giveaway! Here are some of the lovely things they're giving away...

Visit my fellow Ladder Bloggers to enter to win some of their favorite things!
Visit each of my fellow bloggers to enter for their individual giveaways! You won't want to miss all of this amazing free goodness ;)!

Giveaway will be open till 12am EST on Monday, Dec 4th (that's Midnight Monday). Winners will be announced on each individual blog.

This giveaway is hosted by a group of friends who call themselves the Ladder Bloggers. We are a mastermind group, seeking to go deeper with our readers even as we 'climb higher' with our writing and blogging skills. We believe no blogger should blog alone! For more info about how our group works, tips for starting your own, and to meet the rest of our group, please visit this page.

Monday, November 26, 2012

Monday's Resolution {Dealing With My Own Planks-In-The-Eye}

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We are picking apart Jonathan Edward's 70 Resolutions, one week and one resolution at a time. Don't forget to start where he did- "Being sensible that I am unable to do anything without God's help, I do humbly entreat Him by His grace to enable me to keep these Resolutions, so far as they are agreeable to His will, for Christ's sake."

21. Resolved, never to do anything, which if I should see in another, I should count a just occasion to despise him for, or to think anyway the more meanly of him.

Here again, in Resolution 21, I find that Jonathan Edwards is revealing a part of my heart rarely exposed. One thing is for certain- this great pastor and theologian really knew the condition of the human heart, both his own and others.

This part of my heart? It's the ugly part that looks down my nose at others, judges or criticizes their actions which I've deemed unsuitable... all the while overlooking my own discrepancies in the same area. I might have done the exact same thing last week, or may be about to make a mistake identical to theirs next week.


Do you find yourself holding others to a higher standard than that which you hold yourself to? Yeah, me too.

It's time to turn the light onto myself, to prayerfully work at removing the plank in my own eye, and to leave the splinters in my neighbor's alone.

Resolution 21 isn't about despising or thinking lowly of others. It's about filtering my actions through my own eyes, with the tables turned- if I saw someone else speaking like that to her child, would I think she was a bad mother? If so-and-so down the road partook in this questionable activity, would it cause me to think less of them?

What I find when I look at my heart in this way is that I still have a lot of personal sin remaining that must be dealt with. There are way too many planks in my eye that I ought to be busy about- really, I haven't got the time or business to go splinter picking in someone else's eye.

Daily, I must examine my own heart in light of the Scriptures. Daily I must humble myself before the Lord, with a heart willing and ready to be changed by Him. Daily I must be busy about the business of plank removal, otherwise known as the mortification of sin.

How's your plank removal been going lately?

Friday, November 23, 2012

Happy Thanksgiving! And Some Purposeful Perusals...

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"Oh give thanks to the LORD; call upon his name; make known his deeds among the peoples! Sing to him; sing praises to him; tell of all his wondrous works! Glory in his holy name; let the hearts of those who seek the LORD rejoice!" 1 Chronicles 16:8-10

Hope you all had a very happy Thanksgiving! Our day was busy, fun, and full of good food and friends. Enjoy a happy weekend with your family, and I'll see you again on Monday (Lord willing)! As for today, we will be Christmas decorating, listening to Bing Crosby's holiday music, and fetching a Christmas tree :).

Here are a few perusals well worth your time :) :

Love Came Down {To Us}- Grace Got *Real* When My Daughter Almost Died @ Muthering Heights. This made me thankful all over again for God's grace at work in the lives of miracle babies.

A Week of Thanks @ Natasha Metzler. I was so challenged and blessed by reading her series this week! Join Natasha as she thanks God for the hardest things in her life: Limited Finances, Failed Adoptions, Farming, and Infertility. You will be very glad you did.

Did you find anything around the web this week that challenged/encouraged/convicted you this week? Please share in the comments!

Wednesday, November 21, 2012

My Thankful List

This is, albeit, random... but I think S was thankful for pumpkins ;). And I love it.

This year I want to give the Lord public thanks for the many wonderful things He has done! His mercies are new every morning, His faithfulness is great, and His steadfast love reaches to the heavens!

Today, I am thankful for...
  • A whole 16 months with no illnesses for our preemie
  • S still takes two naps every day at 16 months- I am spoiled!
  • My husband has a steady job
  • All of our physical needs are met
  • Our lovely apartment with plenty of space for S to play
  • First baby steps from S
  • Sixty degree weather in Pennsylvania in November, and no major snow fall yet
  • Quiet, sunny afternoons
  • Autumnal family strolls
  • A house full of good books to read
  • Supportive and loving parents and in-laws
  • All of the new words S is spouting off and parroting
  • A loving and wonderful, Word-centered local church body
  • Tools to help us in studying and comprehending the Word of God
  • An abundance of Bibles in my home in a language I can read
  • Like-minded friends who encourage, friends who think differently and challenge me
  • A husband who sharpens me as iron sharpens iron
  • A husband who is my best friend
  • Four and a half years of joyful, enriching marriage
  • Hard times that have made our love deeper, and our faith firmer
  • The beautiful part of the country we live in, nestled in hills and trees
  • A healthy body and hands to work with
  • Music
  • A daughter who loves music too
  • A simple, happy home
  • Salvation and security in Him
  • Christ's righteousness attributed to my account- He has made me perfect forever (Heb.10:14).
  • Death is not the end
 What blessings are you praising God for in this season of Thanksgiving? 

Tuesday, November 20, 2012

Life Unplugged {Lessons from My Social Media Fast}

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Hello all! After two weeks without facebook, twitter, or blogs/blogging; I have returned- feeling refreshed and ready to get back into my online groove. 

This social media fast was an interesting experiment for me. I was afraid of finding out that I really did have a horrible addiction to social media. I was afraid that stepping away would be harder than it should.

It wasn't nearly as hard as I expected. My eyes were opened to some really good things the internet brings to my life (unobserved before the fast), but at the end of the day I was also fine to function joyfully without it.

Here's a few of the lessons I learned:

My life is rewarding, fulfilling, busy and meaningful without social media. I have a sweet little girl who delights and entertains me daily. I have a wonderful husband who loves me, challenges me, and supports me. The Lord has blessed us with a beautiful apartment that I enjoy being in and am quite busy taking care of! We have good local friends, a great church family, and countless blessings to enjoy. Life is full, good, and rich- with or without the internet.

Social media is a great way for stay-at-home moms to connect with other ladies. For the first time in my career as a SAHM, I felt slightly lonely during the day. This void made me realize that online interaction is a great encouragement in my role as a SAHM. Because I'm reading and writing and interacting with other like-minded ladies throughout my day, I am encouraged and inspired to be a better mom, homemaker, and wife. This is one of the biggest reasons that I am excited to be back!

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A person can only do so much. As usual, I was over-ambitious in my goals for my time away from the computer. I had hoped to tackle three major projects: 1) final Christmas preparations, 2) a complete deep clean and overhaul organization of our home, and 3) extra writing.

After a week of floundering in all three areas and not accomplishing much in any of them, I realized that I needed to narrow my focus. I picked one task and spent the second week devoted to it. It was better after that, but I didn't accomplish nearly as much as I could of if I had done this in the beginning!

Between caring for children, cleaning house, laundry, ironing, and cooking, we women already have quite a bit on our plates. Cutting out one area (in my case, social media) does not give you liberty to tack three extra major projects onto your agenda! That's just crazy ;).

I didn't miss much. Personally, I was glad to be off of facebook and twitter the day after the elections ;). I'm sure that the rantings that went up that day probably weren't worth my time and emotional energy! This week I'll be reading the back log of my favorite blogs and checking in on good friends via facebook....then I'll know what I need to know and won't worry about the rest. The world kept spinning without me, and it is perfectly okay that I missed some of it.

Being off line doesn't make you more spiritual or solve all of your problems. Even without social media, I couldn't possibly accomplish everything I wanted to get done in a day. And though I wasn't tempted to rush through my prayer time because I needed to put up a post while S was napping, I was tempted by the organizational projects and other "to dos" calling my name. It was still a struggle to quiet my heart and focus. This is an area of my life that needs attention and discipline, with or without the internet! 

All in all, I am glad to be back. How have you been over the last couple of weeks? I look forward to reconnecting!
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Have you ever fasted from social media? What key lessons did you learn from your experience?


Monday, November 19, 2012

Monday's Resolution {Temperance in Eating}

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We are picking apart Jonathan Edward's 70 Resolutions, one week and one resolution at a time. Don't forget to start where he did- "Being sensible that I am unable to do anything without God's help, I do humbly entreat Him by His grace to enable me to keep these Resolutions, so far as they are agreeable to His will, for Christ's sake."

20. Resolved, to maintain the strictest temperance in eating and drinking.

  

tem·per·ance

[tem-per-uhns, tem-pruhns] noun

1. moderation or self-restraint in action, statement, etc.; self-control.
2. habitual moderation in the indulgence of a natural appetite or passion 

*Definition via Dictionary.com*


All of my life I've been a "skinny" girl. Fast metabolism blessed (cursed?) me with the ability to consume vast quantities of pizza, ice cream, and potato chips without gaining an ounce. 

Half way through high school things started to catch up with me, and I went from weighing barely 100 pounds to 135... but the weight gain stopped there, I still ate what I wanted, and was fitting into a size 6- so who really cared? 

People can look at me, and never in a million years think I struggle with food.

But the truth is, I do. 

I am incredibly over-indulgent in my eating habits. I eat what I want, when I want, often when I'm not even hungry. Eating is a pass-time, a hobby, one of my favorite activities. I am fairly certain that I'm harboring addictions to sugar, caffeine, sodium and chocolate. 

Resolution 20 is a touchy and uncomfortable resolution for me. It's an area of sin in my life (gluttony) that I've never really addressed. What Jerry Bridges would call a "respectable" sin- no one can really see the effects, and no one (including myself) would call me to account for it. 

Well, the buck stops here. One day I will be called to account for my eating habits. God knows how I idolize food and over-indulge. It is neither glorifying to Him nor helpful in my walk with Him. 

"So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God." 1Corinthians 10:31

Jonathan Edwards used to note how foods affected him- which made him sluggish, which filled him with energy for his tasks. As he observed patterns, he changed his diet accordingly. His goal was to be as useful and productive for the Master as possible, and to be enslaved by nothing. 

Food needs to be a useful tool, not a controlling force, in my life. The purpose of eating is to strengthen and equip my body for its daily tasks. If I am eating for fun, when I don't really need to, and foods that drag my energy down, food is no longer fulfilling its proper purpose.


"Strictest temperance" is scary language! You can tell that Jonathan Edwards wasn't fooling around- he meant business. I too need to be serious when it comes to rooting out this sin struggle in my life (think of the words Jesus used- "if your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out...if you arm causes you to sin, cut it off"). 

As women we can get pretty confused and flustered about this food business. Ultimately my weight, figure, and complexion are irrelevant. Whether rotund or skinny, super model or plain jane, acne victim or smoothly alabaster-browed, the most important thing at the end of the day is this: was God glorified in my eating habits to day? Did I honor Him first, or bow down to the idol of food?

This goes both ways: for those afraid to gain a pound and those who could afford to lose a few. Are you nourishing your body properly, proportionately, and healthfully, so as to equip yourself for His service? 

It is a big struggle for me, and one I will probably fight off and on for the rest of my life. Please don't think I have this one figured out; I've got along way to go.

What have you found to be most helpful in cultivating godly eating habits and keeping food in its proper place in your life? Please share and encourage us!

Wednesday, November 7, 2012

HAPPY Holidays- Your No Stress, Ready to Bless, Early Christmas Prep, Wrap-up

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You've pressed on, you've endured, and hopefully you are sitting at the end of this series with the majority of your Christmas preparations completed and tucked under your belt. Nice work! Doesn't it feel amazing?!?!

Or perhaps you've dabbled in these posts, meant to keep up, accomplished a few tasks, but feel you've fallen too far behind. Banish such fears from your mind, friend! Remember the goal (at least mine) was to finish your Christmas prep before Thanksgiving. You still have a little over two weeks to reach that goal!

I'm not going to lie- I haven't finished all of the projects myself. I had company that stayed for three weeks, an unplanned root canal that required three trips to a dentist's office 45 minutes away, and a teething baby that kept me up many nights. Trust me- I understand that sometimes we aren't able to stay on top of things the way we'd like to!

I am methodically working my way down the list though, and am on target for still meeting my goal.

Wherever you are at today, be encouraged, and press on. Whatever you are able to accomplish ahead of time will make your holiday season that much less stressful. Whatever you've completed, you are that much more on top of things than you were, say, last year ;).

My desire is that this series encouraged you to get things done, stop fretting, and to really soak up and enjoy this special season of celebrating Christ's birth. At the end of the day, that's what its all about.

So keep pressing on- go out and pick up those last few (or maybe more) Christmas presents, organize your home, wrap and decorate. Enjoy time with your family and friends, delicious food, that first snow fall.

Here is the entire list of posts for you to go back over and peruse. Pick up where you left off, or even feel free to start at the beginning if you're just joining us. Thanks for reading!

Introduction
Gifting- Your Plan of Attack
Gifting- Think Outside the Box
Gifting- To Make or Purchase?
Christmas Cards- Your Plan of Attack
Christmas Cards- Making Your List and Checking it Twice
Christmas Cards- I've Got Your Number
Holiday Food- The Menu
Holiday Food- A Timetable 
Holiday Food- Let's Get Down to Baking
Playing Christmas Keep Up 
Holiday Schedule- Keep it Simple, Keep it Meaningful
Holiday Schedule- Plan and Chart
Your Holiday Cleaning Plan
Decking the Halls!
Tying Up Loose Ends-Wrapping 
Tying Up Loose Ends- Stuffing and Stamping Cards

Tuesday, November 6, 2012

Tying Up Loose Ends: Stuffing and Stamping Cards (Day 15)

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This is it folks: the penultimate post in our "No Stress, Ready to Bless, Early Christmas Prep" series. We're finishing up all of the last little tidbits, and today our tidbit is Christmas cards! I know that some of you don't even bother with cards- if so, just ignore and relax ;)!

If you've been following along with our daily assignments, you should have already made the list of people you are sending cards to, collected all necessary addresses and filed them in a neat document, and scheduled a photo session (if you are sending picture cards).

Do you have the cards yet? We still haven't had our photo appointment, so I am personally cardless for the moment. Within the next week, purchase the correct number of cards needed. Get your envelopes and stamps so you are ready to roll!

Natasha shared in an earlier comment that although she usually has her cards ready to go in plenty of time, she often forgets to send them. I've been contemplating possible solutions for this problem, and here's what I've come up with:

  • Leave the cards in a conspicuous place- next to your front door, on an end table, or neatly stacked on your desk. If you're afraid of losing them in a pile of clutter, this might be a sign that it is time for you to declutter and organize ;). 
  • Make a note on your calendar- set the specific date that you plan to mail your cards and write it on your calendar. That way when you see the note on the appropriate date, you will remember to toss them in the mail!
  •  If you're sure all else will fail, just send them immediately- its better early than never ;). The folks on your list will appreciate hearing from you whenever you send them, whether its before Thanksgiving or after New Years. 
Today's Assignment: Gather your card supplies together (cards, envelopes, stamps, and a wet sponge to help seal). Sit down for one or two evenings this week, pop on Christmas music or a Christmas movie, and make yourself a cup of hot coco. Make your time spent stuffing and stamping envelopes a pleasant and festive experience!

Have you missed our other early Christmas prep posts? Catch up on them here:

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Introduction
Gifting- Your Plan of Attack
Gifting- Think Outside the Box
Gifting- To Make or Purchase?
Christmas Cards- Your Plan of Attack
Christmas Cards- Making Your List and Checking it Twice
Christmas Cards- I've Got Your Number
Holiday Food- The Menu
Holiday Food- A Timetable 
Holiday Food- Let's Get Down to Baking
Playing Christmas Keep Up 
Holiday Schedule- Keep it Simple, Keep it Meaningful
Holiday Schedule- Plan and Chart
Your Holiday Cleaning Plan
Decking the Halls!
Tying Up Loose Ends-Wrapping 


Monday, November 5, 2012

Stepping Away for a Few...Be Back Soon!

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Life has been really, really good lately. And full. We've had company, S is learning a new word almost every day it seems, and we are prepping for a full house during the holidays.

I've loved sharing our "early Christmas prep" series with you, and I hope it has been immensely helpful!

Now that it's just about finished, I think it is a good time to step away from the blog for a bit. Nothing major, just a few weeks. But a break nevertheless.

S reading with Daddy
I'm taking a major social media fast- no facebook, twitter, or blogging- so that I can focus in on my family and home. There are projects I've been letting percolate on the back burner for just a little too long that need attention. Certain chores have gone undone, piles are accumulating, and I need to refocus. I think cutting out internet for a couple weeks should do the trick and get me caught up ;).

If you'd really like to be in touch, I will be checking email, but other than that I am unreachable (unless you have my number ;)). I have the last two posts of the Christmas series preloaded and ready to post automatically tomorrow and Wednesday, so they will be available for reading (I just won't get to see your comments until I'm back).

Have a wonderful few weeks! I plan on coming back refreshed with an excellent line up of posts, so stay tuned :).

So Big!

Thursday, November 1, 2012

Tying Up Loose Ends: Wrapping (Day 14)

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I have a confession to make: I am probably the worst present wrapper in the world. My mother and sister, both artists, wrap in a perfectly symmetrical and lovely fashion, complete with hand curled ribbons and stunning homemade labels on top.

My wrapping jobs are full of creases, lumps, and tears. Seriously atrocious.

Today there is good news for lousy wrappers like me: since we've been working so hard at prepping for Christmas early, there is plenty of time to wrap those presents right!

I might even try for fancier wrapping this time around, since 1) I have plenty of time to fix any catastrophes and 2) Pinterest is so inspiring and all ;). In fact, you guessed it- I've even made a pinboard of gift wrapping ideas for your inspiration!

If you've been tracking with us, there is a good chance that you already have several gifts purchased or made and ready to go. If you haven't been tracking with us, there is still plenty of time to catch up and be done with plenty of time to spare. C'mon and get to it ;)!

Today's Assignment: Get your wrapping paper, ribbons, labels, tape and scissors out, and start wrapping! With plenty of time until Christmas, you could spend 15 minutes tonight, and maybe spread several more 15 minute sessions out over the weeks to come. Make a plan and timetable for wrapping all of your gifts, and then follow through. You can do it!

Check out the other posts in this series if you've missed them for more early Christmas prep inspiration!

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Introduction
Gifting: Your Plan of Attack
Gifting: Think Outside the Box
Gifting: To Make or Purchase?
Christmas Cards: Your Plan of Attack
Christmas Cards: Making Your List and Checking it Twice
Christmas Cards: I've Got Your Number
Holiday Food: The Menu
Holiday Food: A Timetable
Holiday Food: Let's Get Down to Baking
Playing Christmas Keep Up
Holiday Schedule: Keep it Simple, Keep it Meaningful
Holiday Schedule: Plan and Chart
Your Holiday Cleaning Plan
Decking the Halls!
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