/**/ The Purposeful Wife: July 2012

Tuesday, July 31, 2012

A List of Domestic Projects To Try

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All right folks, I've mentioned that I'd like to try one new domestic project each month for the rest of the year, just to make life interesting ;).

I might do more than one a month, and I think I'll just pull from this list as projects are convenient. Here are a few things I'd like to try (those crossed out are ones I've accomplished already):

Make my own yogurt.

Make my own laundry detergent.

Dice and freeze tomatoes (to save buying cans).

Make my own tortillas.

Learn how to knit.

Learn how to can.

Learn new recipes that involve grain-soaking (with help from Trina Holden's book: Real Fast Food!).

Make yogurt in a crock-pot

Learn how to make headbands for my daughter.

Learn how to make hair bows for my daughter.

Switch to all-natural cleaning products (potentially using recipes from Tsh Oxenreider's book, Organized Simplicity ). 

Learn how to sprout things- like sunflower seeds and legumes.

I think that's about it so far. Ambitious perhaps, but these are a few things that have caught my fancy.

What adventurous things have you been attempting in the domestic world ;)? Have you tried any of the projects on my list? If so, your words of advice are very welcome!

Monday, July 30, 2012

Monday's Resolution {To Live Mightily}

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We are picking apart Jonathan Edward's 70 Resolutions, one week and one resolution at a time. Don't forget to start where he did- "Being sensible that I am unable to do anything without God's help, I do humbly entreat Him by His grace to enable me to keep these Resolutions, so far as they are agreeable to His will, for Christ's sake."

6. Resolved, to live with all my might, while I do live. 

My paraphrase:

6. Resolved, to live mightily (not lazily!), with all of my strength and gusto, while I am alive.

By nature, I am a laid-back, West-coaster, passive kind of gal. Every personality type has strengths and weaknesses.

My strengths include: taking time to smell the roses, spontaneity, and flexibility.


My big, giant, numero-uno sin struggle??? Laziness.

Are you surprised? I hope so- because by the grace of God, He has given me much victory in areas of self-discipline.


But, oh, by nature, I would be content to spend much of my day, every day, seated on a comfy couch, cup of tea in my hand, and a book or movie in front of me. I am just plain lazy.

This makes Resolution six a toughie for me. To live mightily? To exude energy and appetite for Christ-exalting, self-abasing, super-empowered living??? It's just not in me.

Praise the Lord that I am no longer my natural woman, but a new creature in Christ (2 Corinthians 5:17)! Because Christ lives in me, today, by His grace, I can resolve to live mightily!

Today, I am resolving with Jonathan Edwards, to live with all of my might while I do live.

To not let a single moment pass me by in lackadaisical carelessness. To love God, and to work for Him while I am able- serving my husband and my daughter, diligently keeping our home (which needs quite a bit of attention after a lazy weekend!), and finding ways to love and serve others.

"Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your might, for there is no work or thought or knowledge or wisdom in Sheol (the grave), to which you are going." Ecclesiastes 9:10

"Wherever you are, be all there. Live to the hilt every situation you believe to be the will of God." Jim Elliot, Christian missionary and martyr. 


 How are you living life mightily and "to the hilt" today?

Friday, July 27, 2012

Weekly Goals

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Here's how I did from July 7th-13th (I know, I am so late and behind!)

Personal

Finish reading The Welsh Revival, and write a review for the blog. Read chapters 3-5 of Desiring God. The second half of this goal actually took me all three weeks instead of one. Sigh.

Set a timer for ten minutes every morning, devoted to focused and uninterrupted prayer (during baby's morning nap time). I know this is not the 30 minute end goal, but I'm starting small and trying to work my way up...This happened a few days, and I have been working on it especially this week, but still not yet a daily habit.

Continue memorizing Psalm 34. Get through verses 14-20 (I start one new verse each day). This also took me about three weeks, I didn't work on Scripture memory at all while my family was in.

Make a plan for in-depth Scripture study; which book to study, what tools to use, methods, time table, etc.

Exercise every morning, Monday-Friday. Do work out DVD's on rainy days, go for walks on sunny days. Nope. Also didn't exercise at all while me family was in.... oops!

Marriage

Focus on kind and respectful speech towards Niall while company is here (when people are staying with us and things are crazy and busy, I've found its so much easier to speak to him rudely or short-tempered, etc. I really want to make an effort to honor and love him with my words, despite things being hectic). Ask him every night how I am doing, in a sweet-spirited and humble way, so that he feels safe to answer honestly. I did not ask Niall every night how I was doing, mostly because we hardly saw each other during the time, so there was little opportunity for me to speak to him, whether nicely or not. I did ask him how I had been at the end of the week, and the only thing he said was that I tended to interrupt him frequently. Something to work on!

One special thing for the week: a massage.

Dress up for dinner just one night next week, so that when he walks in the door I am in a skirt or dress :).

Parenting

Read daily to S. Bad mommy.

Spend 15 minutes in focused play time each day, concentrating on the developmental exercises the physical therapist has given us to do. Bad mommy.

Home

Spend 15 minutes every day, Monday-Friday, organizing/purging/decluttering. Not even close.


Spend 15 minutes every day, Monday-Friday, cleaning. Nope.

Make one new meal for dinner (haven't decided what yet!). Fail.

Pick a "domestic project" to do in the month of July. Double fail. At this point, I give up on doing a domestic project for July!

Blog

Get up early on Saturday to write for at least one hour, uninterrupted.

Post Resolution #4 on Monday. 



Goals for July 28th- August 3rd

Personal

Finish reading Desiring God.

Set a timer every morning for ten minutes of focused prayer time.

Finish memorizing Psalm 34, and begin to memorize Psalm 51.

Get up no later than 6 a.m. every morning.

Work on personal Bible study at least three days.

Exercise every morning, Monday-Friday. Do work out DVD's on rainy days, go for walks on sunny days. 

Marriage

Dress up for dinner at least one night.

Put a little love note in his lunch each morning.

Allow his evenings to stay free and quiet for study (don't ask him to help with S when he ought to be working on something else).

Parenting

Read to S every day.

Spend 15 minutes in focused play time each day, concentrating on the developmental exercises the physical therapist has given us to do.

Home

 Spend 15 minutes every day, Monday-Friday, organizing/purging/decluttering.

Spend 15 minutes every day, Monday-Friday, cleaning. 

Make one new meal for dinner: Grilled Veggie Sandwiches.  

Blog

Get up early on Saturday to write for at least one hour, uninterupted.

Post Resolution #6 on Monday.

Finish reading Jacinda Vandenberg's e-book, How to Design a Blog for Free, and play around with the blog's look.

What are your goals for the next week?

Thursday, July 26, 2012

A Proposed Plan for Studying Scripture

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One of my goals for the year is to start actually studying Scripture, not simply reading it. Consequently, one of my last posted "weekly goals" was to make a plan of attack for said study (yes, I know I haven't posted weekly goals in a couple of weeks... tomorrow, I promise, I will do so!).

Here's my ideal plan. In an ideal world, every morning I would take a deeper look at the passage in Mark from my Bible Reading Plan by:

  • Reading it three times.
  • Writing down every question that perplexes me about the passage.
  • Reading one or two free online commentaries about the chapter (such as Matthew Henry, or John Calvin, perhaps).
  • Finding the answers to my questions (as best as one possibly can), via the commentaries or other tools (online and off). 
Like I said, ideal. Each day I am also reading three other chapters from my Bible Reading Plan, and working at developing a stronger habit of focused prayer time. I'm also working on memorizing Scripture.

This is a lot to do every day... and I don't know if I can keep up with it all in my current season of life. 

Part of the problem could be that I've slid out of my habit of early rising. I'm down to pumping only once a day now (woohoo!!!!), but pumping times were what I used to work on these things. So now I have to figure out a new way to incorporate them into my every day routine.

Over the next few weeks I will be working on a new routine, and attempting to cement these Bible study habits into it. We'll see how it goes and if it is feasible. So far in the past two weeks I've done it maybe twice :).

What methods and tools have you found most helpful in personal Bible Study? And how do you squeeze time for study into your daily routine? I'd love to hear!

Wednesday, July 25, 2012

Sensible Sunday Attire

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When people ask my Pastor how they ought to dress for Sunday services, he always responds with the same word: "Modestly."

Sound advice. As Christian women, we ought to desire to adorn ourselves in a way honoring to God, keeping in mind the need to respect men around us by not dressing provocatively.

If you're like me, most of the clothes in your wardrobe meet these guidelines. Sure, we might have a low-cut top or dress, or one that shows too much back or shoulder, but with a camisole underneath or a shrug over it, we are good to go.

Or are we?

One thing that has come to my attention lately is just how distracting these many layers can be. Probably not to men around me, but certainly to me!

Case in point. I own a lovely j.crew strapless black dress. Usually I throw a cardigan over it, pair it with a pretty pair of heels, and call it a day.

Later that morning in church, I will find myself tugging it upwards, adjusting my cardigan, and hoping that the darn thing will stay up (and that the man in the pulpit won't notice me wrestling with it *eek*!).

Or that low cut top with the camisole underneath. I find myself tugging that up, adjusting my straps beneath, praying they won't pop out, etc.

These outfits cover me and appear modest in front of the mirror on my way out the door. But give it an hour or two of movement, and it is a battle to keep things just so.

When I'm struggling to hold a dress up or keep straps hidden, I am not focused or engaged in corporate worship.

Lately I've been trying to keep this in mind as I dress on Sunday mornings. My first question: "Is it modest?" And my second: "Will it stay that way without rearranging? Or will it be a distraction to me?"

This has definitely narrowed my selection. Yet the reward of going unhindered into the house of prayer has been immense! I wouldn't trade it for a thousand j.crew dresses ;).

What tips do you have for dressing sensibly on Sundays? Do you agree with my recent revelation?

Linked with: Wise Woman, Encourage One Another, and Raising Homemakers.

Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Gems from the Lovely Ruth Bell Graham

Recently I've been dabbling in Ruth Bell Graham's autobiographical sketches, entitled It's My Turn. My Pastor's wife found it in a thrift store, and after enjoying it herself passed it along to me.

Published in 1982, its tattered cover and scrolling title look every bit a product of its age.


But inside are tucked the most wonderful gems. Bits of wisdom for Christians, wives, and mothers- timeless truths, wonderful words of encouragement, all doused in a good sprinkling of wit and humor.

Here are a few I just had to share:

Monday, July 23, 2012

Monday's Resolution {Not to Lose a Moment}

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We are picking apart Jonathan Edward's 70 Resolutions, one week and one resolution at a time. Don't forget to start where he did- "Being sensible that I am unable to do anything without God's help, I do humbly entreat Him by His grace to enable me to keep these Resolutions, so far as they are agreeable to His will, for Christ's sake."

5. Resolved, never to lose one moment of time; but improve it the most profitable way I possibly can.

My paraphrase:


5. Resolved, never to waste even a minute of time; but to spend it in the most useful, productive, and beneficial way I possibly can.

Time; one of God's greatest gifts to us. Everybody has 24 hours in any given day, sixty minutes in an hour, and countless options on how to spend it.

How are you spending your time?

Jonathan Edwards resolved never to waste a minute. He saw value in even the most seemingly insignificant fractions of time. Think about it: one minute!

I waste lots of minutes each day. Five minutes lying in bed after my alarm goes off (well, really more like 15... or 20... or maybe I just shouldn't have brought it up...)- not really asleep, but not wanting to get out of bed just yet.

An extra minute looking in the mirror, even though I've done what I need to get ready for the day. Five minutes sitting in the car bored, waiting for my husband to get out of work.

One minute tapping my toe, annoyed that the pot isn't boiling yet. Just one more minute, browsing the never-sleeping, always-growing, conglomeration of meaningless information on the internet.

I don't see these little minutes as valuable. And yet, as gifts from a gracious God, even the "little" minutes count. The attitude I have in them and the way that I spend them will be a long term investment in my future (for better or for worse).

Sometimes as mom's we can be guilty of trying to "kill" time. Only 15 minutes til nap time.... what can I do to survive them? Speed through them? Etc.

What if we chose today to look at those 15 minutes as a blessing, and to seek to improve them in the best possible way?

Instead of grumbling and dying for that nap, what if we read to our babies, snuggled with them, played a game, and tried to enjoy them and love on them as best as we can?

What if instead of toe-tapping and growing frustrated, we walked in a spirit of prayer, talking with the Lord, and thanking Him for His blessings?

What if we sought to use all of our little minutes in the best way possible? Tidying a corner, wiping a counter, reading a couple paragraphs of a good book, or investing quality time in the littles?

We will never get those wasted moments of time back. Once spent, time evaporates and blurs into indistinct memories. 

I don't know how many minutes I have left. By God's grace, I want to start seeing each one as precious, and investing it into that which lasts forever.

So I ask again: How are you spending your time?

Saturday, July 14, 2012

Taking A Wee Break

This week my family has been with us (Dad, Mom, Sister #2, and Brother), and they will be staying into the better part of next week. We celebrated S's first birthday, and had a BBQ in honor of her this afternoon. It was fun, and my house is now officially a disaster zone...
All of last week's posts were pre-written and scheduled, but with company and craziness and celebrations, I haven't been online much in the past week.... so I am taking a week or so away.

Hopefully I'll catch you around when I get back. Thanks for hanging with me! :)

Friday, July 13, 2012

One Year's Transformation

One Week Old
Two Weeks Old
Three Weeks Old
Four Weeks Old
Five Weeks Old
Six Weeks Old
Seven Weeks Old
Eight Weeks Old
Nine Weeks Old (At Home!)
Ten Weeks Old
Eleven Weeks Old
Twelve Weeks (One Week Adjusted)
Four Months
Five Months
Six Months
Seven Months
Eight Months
Nine Months
Ten Months
Eleven Months
Twelve Months
It's been one heck of a year, kid. Happy Birthday, S!!! Oh how we thank the Lord for this crazy, wonderful, exhausting, stressful and amazing year!

For a reference point, the doll is 9" long, and in the 12 months picture, S is wearing a size 6-9 mos. dress. (To read her wild birth story, click here.)

Thursday, July 12, 2012

A Delicious Doctrine

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"From childhood up, my mind had been full of objections against the doctrine of God’s sovereignty …. It used to appear like a horrible doctrine to me. But I remember the time very well, when I seemed to be convinced, and fully satisfied, as to this sovereignty of God. . . But [I] never could give an account, how, or by what means, I was, thus convinced, not in the least imagining at the time, nor a long time after, that there was any extraordinary influence of God’s Spirit in it but only that now I saw further, and my reason apprehended the justice and reasonableness of it. However, my mind rested in it; and it put an end to all those cavils and objections. And there has been a wonderful alteration in my mind, in respect to the doctrine of God's sovereignty, from that day to this; so that I scarce ever have found so much as the rising of an objection against it. . . The doctrine has very often appeared exceeding pleasant, bright, and sweet. Absolute sovereignty is what I love to ascribe to God." -Jonathan Edwards

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Wednesday, July 11, 2012

Book Review: The Welsh Revival


What wouldn't we give to see hundreds of souls saved? Our churches, of all denominations, packed with people and overflowing into the streets? A renewed and serious commitment to prayer, both public and private? 

What wouldn't we give to see the worst of sinners transformed by the grace of God? The coldest Christians warmed with new zeal? Entire communities turned upside down by the gospel? 

What wouldn't we give for a fresh outpouring of the Spirit of God? To feel His presence in a unique, real, and palpable way, like we'd never felt before? To see God so clearly at work that even the greatest skeptic must throw up their hands and confess, "Truly, this is the finger of God!"?

This was the experience of the Welsh Revival of the late 1800's. 

And this is the experience that the Church of our day so desperately needs. 

As I read this little work, my heart stirred with unquenchable longing. It awakened in me a desire that has often lay dormant... a desire to see God work in mighty and miraculous ways, too often squelched by my unbelief.

Thomas Phillips writes as a contemporary of the revival, offering an accurate account from personal correspondences and experience for the benefit of the English who wondered, "What on earth is happening in Wales?!?"

Several distinctions marked this great and widespread revival:

Prayer. The revival began and was sustained with a spirit of prayer. God's people implored Him, sought Him, and struggled with Him in serious, lengthy, set apart prayer. Prayer meetings were conducted daily; morning, noon, and night, often continuing for hours and hours. People were so moved, and so concerned, that they could not go home. They were compelled to continue in prayer. As I contrasted this to our present day, I was grieved. Many churches have cancelled prayer meetings all together because no one comes. The few prayer meetings that remain are sparsely attended. We have seriously neglected this most crucial means of grace.

The Felt Presence of God. Multiple accounts express the delight of communing with God in a way never experienced before. His presence was so near, so strongly felt, that congregants dared not to end worship services or leave the house of God, for fear that "the Divine influence" be "marred." I long to see God working among His people in such away that all doubts of unbelief are erased.

Unity Between Denominations. Wesleyans, Calvinistic Methodists, Baptists, Anglicans... not a single group was left untouched by the revival. Congregations could be found joining other denominations for prayer and worship. Irrelevant distinctions blurred, and sweet love of the brethren was felt among all. This is a tough one for me. I tend to take pride in the differences between my theological understanding and others- such wickedness on my part! Oh that God may humble and unite His people!

Family Devotions. Once converted, every believer made a point of leading their family in Scripture reading and prayer. Children with unbelieving parents asked permission to do so, and often this resulted in the salvation of entire families. Mothers with unconverted husbands undertook this high task. Why do we see family worship as optional? I was convicted of our need to press on in making such a commitment. Our family devotions are somewhat sporadic, but God can so use those special times, and it is important to persevere in them!

Sabbath Observance. One of the greatest joys experienced by pastors during the revival was seeing parks and recreational activities cease and close on the Lord's Day. People devoted Sunday to the Lord's will: rest and worship. This is another area in which the Church has been sadly influenced by the culture. Not only do Christians fill restaurants and shopping malls on Sunday, congregations have opened Saturday night services so that members can conveniently get worship "out of the way" of their weekend. In all of Church history, this has only been acceptable among believers for the last 50-100 years. May God bring us back to honoring Him on His day in the way He intended.

Drastic Conversions. No class distinctions- rich and poor alike were saved in mass amounts. Hundreds of souls were added to the Church, even in small, rural communities. The worst drunkards were converted and made sober, the worst scoffers and skeptics came to believe. This encouraged me- no soul is out of the Lord's reach! What a sight it would be to see our Churches filled with family and friends we never thought could be saved! 

In case if you couldn't tell, I highly recommend this book ;). 

May God once more favor His people with a special outpouring of His Spirit, as in the days of Pentecost!


Tuesday, July 10, 2012

A List of Scriptures for Memorization


In the back of our Catechism, there is a list of "Scripture Passages for Learning By Heart." My husband thought that it would be a good list to work our way through as we memorize Scripture. I mentioned it in my Goals for 2012.

That being said, it is quite a long list! It might take me three years... or I might end up taking a different approach before I get any where close to finishing it. The point is that I am systematically working through something! No matter how far we get, any Scripture memorized is valuable and beneficial.

I'm not sure that I will memorize it all in order. Right now I am about half way through the list of Psalms. I might start skipping around the list just to provide some variety for myself in the types of passages I am meditating on.

For your benefit, if you want to memorize Scripture but don't know where to start, here is our list:

Exodus 20:1-17 (The ten commandments)
Psalm 1, 16, 19, 23, 25, 27, 32, 34, 51, 84, 90, 92, 95, 100, 103, 115, 116, 130, 139, 145.
Proverbs 3:1-20; 6:6-11; 10;11; 20.
Ecclesiastes 12
Isaiah 40; 53; 55.
Matthew 5:3-16; 6; 7; 25; 28:18-20.
Mark 14:22-25, 32-42.
Luke 15:11-32; 16:19-31; 18:1-14; 24:13-35.
John 1:1-18; 14:1-15; 20:1-23.
Acts 17:22-31; 20:17-38.
Romans 5:1-11; 8:28-39; 12.
1 Corinthians 13; 15.
2 Corinthians 5.
Ephesians 3:14-21; 6:10-20.
Colossians 3:1-4; 4:2-6.
1 Thessalonians 4:13-18.
Titus 2:11-14.
Hebrews 4:14-16; 11:1-12:3.
1 John 1:5-2:6; 3:13-24; 4.
Revelation 1:9-20; 7:9-17; 20:11-15; 21; 22.

Okay, phew! Make that 8 years...

Do you have a list of verses you are working your way through memorizing? Or do you take more of a random approach? I'd love to hear your thoughts!

Monday, July 9, 2012

Monday's Resolution {Tending to His Glory}

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 We are picking apart Jonathan Edward's 70 Resolutions, one week and one resolution at a time. Don't forget to start where he did- "Being sensible that I am unable to do anything without God's help, I do humbly entreat Him by His grace to enable me to keep these Resolutions, so far as they are agreeable to His will, for Christ's sake."

4. Resolved, never to do any manner of thing, whether in soul or body, less or more, but what tends to the glory of God; nor be, nor suffer it, if I can avoid it.

My paraphrase:

4. Resolved, never to do anything, with my mind, soul, or body, except that which glorifies God. I resolve to be nothing less than glorifying to Him, and not to tolerate anything in myself which is dishonoring to Him, to the best of my ability. 

We discussed it in Resolution #1, and now here we are again. The number one job of the Christian is to glorify God.


How do we glorify God?


John Piper suggests that we glorify God by enjoying Him forever. Delighting ourselves in Him, rejoicing in Him. Enjoying and tasting His sweetness.

Are you enjoying God today? Do you delight in His Word, and time spent communing with Him in prayer?

I'd also like to suggest that we glorify Him by our obedience to His commandments. Jesus says that if we love Him, we will keep His commandments. 

Are you walking in obedience to Christ today? When is the last time your life was actively changed by your study of the Word of God? 

Can we make the commitment, like Edwards, to tolerate nothing less in ourselves than that which glorifies and exalts our Lord?

To be honest, this scares me. It is intimidating to look at my life through this filter. I know what a big sinner I am, and how much I love to have my own way, and thus, to glorify myself.

As Christians, we are called to so much more than self-love and vanity. We are called to worship, and to enjoy, to obey, and to exalt our glorious God and Savior Jesus Christ!

Once again I am challenged by Jonathan Edwards to forsake all- denying myself, to take up my cross and follow Him.

It will be a constant battle, a struggle in my mind. To choose Christ's way, or my own way. To submit myself to God, or to rebel and submit to my flesh.

May God give us grace to love Him more, and to seek to glorify Him in all that we think, say and do!

May we tend to His glory!



Saturday, July 7, 2012

Weekly Goals

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 July 7th-13th (my family is coming this week, which should be amazingly fun! but possibly crazy?we'll see how the goals do...)

Personal

Finish reading The Welsh Revival, and write a review for the blog. Read chapters 3-5 of Desiring God.

Set a timer for ten minutes every morning, devoted to focused and uninterrupted prayer (during baby's morning nap time). I know this is not the 30 minute end goal, but I'm starting small and trying to work my way up...

Continue memorizing Psalm 34. Get through verses 14-20 (I start one new verse each day).

Make a plan for in-depth Scripture study; which book to study, what tools to use, methods, time table, etc.

Exercise every morning, Monday-Friday. Do work out DVD's on rainy days, go for walks on sunny days.

Marriage

Focus on kind and respectful speech towards Niall while company is here (when people are staying with us and things are crazy and busy, I've found its so much easier to speak to him rudely or short-tempered, etc. I really want to make an effort to honor and love him with my words, despite things being hectic). Ask him every night how I am doing, in a sweet-spirited and humble way, so that he feels safe to answer honestly.

One special thing for the week: a massage.

Dress up for dinner just one night next week, so that when he walks in the door I am in a skirt or dress :).

Parenting

Read daily to S.

Spend 15 minutes in focused play time each day, concentrating on the developmental exercises the physical therapist has given us to do.

Home

Spend 15 minutes every day, Monday-Friday, organizing/purging/decluttering.

Spend 15 minutes every day, Monday-Friday, cleaning.

Make one new meal for dinner (haven't decided what yet!).

Pick a "domestic project" to do in the month of July.

Blog

Get up early on Saturday to write for at least one hour, uninterrupted.

Post Resolution #4 on Monday.

What are your goals for the week?

Purposeful Perusals, 16th Edition

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 Tucking Them in With Truth- I LOVE this, because Scripture memorization is so important, especially in the early years when minds are big sponges :).

Will You Drink This Cup?- Irony of ironies. After an evening spent whining and complaining, in a bad mood (with no real reason, I am ashamed to say, just a few trivial ones), I read this. Oh the Lord sure has a timely way of using others to convict us of sin! 

What interesting things have you read this week?

Friday, July 6, 2012

It's Never Too Late to Start (Goals for 2012)

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Perhaps you recall that in January I set a goal of reading six books a month. I struggled and staggered underneath the weight of the goal, only to collapse in March or April and give up.

 I wasn't going to set a number of books to read, I was just going to read as much as possible, and try to be intentional about it instead of just wasting free time.

The number of books I was reading each month after that basically nose dived.

There is nothing wrong with changing a goal that you find to be unattainable or unrealistic. But I'm figuring out that if I change it, I need to keep it specific. I can always readjust or change it if it is still unmanageable. But I need to make it specific!

I've always been challenged and inspired by Crystal at Money Saving Mom. She sets great goals annually, monthly, and weekly. She posts updates each week on how she is doing to enlist the accountability of her readers. Nothing makes you stick to a goal like posting it for the world to see!

This week I was further inspired by Sarah Mae, who (also inspired by Crystal) has made goals for 2012 just recently, even though the year is half way over (can you believe the year is half way over?!?!?). 

I am one of those weirdo perfectionists who wants to start fresh in January. Start a year long Bible Reading plan in the summer? I can't do it. Something in me just bristles at unusual starts.

Yet late is better than never.

Thank you, Sarah Mae, for reminding me of that, and for courageously posting your "goals for 2012" in July.

I've been striving each week to follow through on my daily routines, yet I feel that I need more specific, measurable, and attainable goals that will get me moving towards my bigger picture each week.

My Goals for the last half of 2012:

Personal
  • Finish reading through the Bible in a year with McCheyene's Plan .
  • Read four books each month
  • Never read my Facebook Newsfeed again (it's been three weeks, and I am seriously loving it!)
  • Spend 30 minutes daily in prayer
  • Continue to memorize Scriptures from the recommended list in the back of the Catechism (I'll post the list next week)
  • Start studying Scripture, not just reading it
  • Exercise 5 mornings a week, whether it is taking a walk with S in the stroller, or doing a yoga or pilates DVD
Marriage
  • Really, faithfully pray for Niall daily
  • Work on gentle, kind, encouraging, and supportive speech (my biggest struggle)
  • Find one sweet thing to do special each week (a massage, special dinner, love note, etc.)
  • Dress nicely for him, specifically work on presenting myself to please his tastes   
Parenting
  • Read to S every day
  • Have intentional and focused playtime daily, even if only for 15 minutes
  • Pray intentionally and faithfully for her, daily
Home
  • Spend 15 minutes each week day organizing/purging
  • Spend 15 minutes each week day cleaning
  • Cook one new meal each week (I've got to get out of my current kitchen rut!) 
  • Do one new "domestic" project every month
Blog
  • Post every day, Monday-Saturday
  • Get a more professional look and layout (we're thinking of switching to Wordpress, and purchasing the Genesis Framework... thoughts on that anyone?)
  • Continue going through Jonathan Edwards' 70 Resolutions, one week and Resolution at a time
  • Get up early on Saturdays (before Niall and S) to write, uninterrupted 
Each week I'll be posting breakdowns of each goal, my bite-size pieces, one 7 day chunk at a time. I will also report my progress from the previous week. 

Do you have goals for 2012? How have they been going so far this year? 

Thursday, July 5, 2012

Domestic Endeavors

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Last week was pretty exciting in my life as far as domestication goes ;).

For the first time ever I made homemade yogurt *gasp*. Awhile back on the facebook page, I asked a few of you about what yogurt machine you would recommend. And all of you were amazing and said you did it without one! This intimidated me exceedingly, but I was willing to give it a shot...

Until a friend who knew I was looking for a yogurt maker found one, unopened and brand new, for $3 at a yard sale. So will all of you ladies who do it without be merciful to me for caving to such strong temptation?

I now own a yogurt maker.

The term "yogurt maker" is a bit deceptive, since you still do all of the milk heating and proper temperature readings on your own. All that it does is provide fancy jars to put the yogurt in, and an incubator for keeping the yogurt warm while it sets.

Despite a few minor disasters (namely, following advice for a quick cool down of the yogurt and over cooling it- oops! and then not letting it set for quite as long as I should have), the yogurt came out pretty well, and I will be making it myself from now on.

I want to try it a few more times with the machine, but eventually I hope to do it without, and perhaps to even try it in the slow cooker (how cool is that???).

Not only did I make homemade yogurt, I also took my first stab at dried beans in years. I had a bag of black beans that cost under $2, and followed Trina Holden's directions from her book on how to prepare them. In the end, for less than $2, I had the equivalent of five cans of beans, in can-size portions, ready to go in my freezer. Beyond exciting!

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These little projects made my week so much more fun and exciting than usual. While I love to try (key word, try) to keep a clean and organized home, and I love trying to follow my neat little routines every day, adding a random project to the mix really energized me.

I've decided that I need to add more of these fun (while useful!) projects into my life. It may mean a messier home, or a little less order... but the extra joy and energy that comes with these endeavors is really rewarding!

All that to say, I am looking for new project ideas (preferably in the whole foods department, which I am trying to ease my way into, or even crafting, I'm game for whatever!). Your suggestions are welcomed!

What domestic endeavors do you find joy in?




Wednesday, July 4, 2012

Book Review: The Case for Classical Christian Education


For several years I've heard the term "Classical Education" thrown around. Just the type of people talking about it made my ears perk up- good friends, intelligent folks, godly parents, bloggers whom I admire...

In any case, I knew that I was interested and wanted to learn more. Latin? Sure, why not? Studying original sources and basing curriculum off of great books? I'm in! 

Recently a friend loaned me Douglas Wilson's book, The Case For Classical Christian Education. Well S isn't even quite one year old yet, I thought that now was as good a time as any to become more informed on the topic. I dove straight in. 

The Case For Classical Christian Education presents an excellent framework for those who, like me, are fairly clueless on the matter. He begins with taking a look at the public school system- how it has failed, why it is philosophically flawed and thus not fixable, etc. 

From there he moves into the centrality of worship in education. He proves that from start to finish, through and through, education is a religious matter. Public schools worship the god of secular humanism, and their curriculum is thus centered on that god. If you want your children to know and love the God of the Bible, you lay a framework for this love by providing them with a Christian education.

Finally he draws up the details of what a Classical Christian ought to look like. He answers common questions, such as, "Why Latin?" Interwoven throughout the book is the story of how he (among others) founded a Classical Christian school in Moscow, Idaho, to meet the needs of their own children. It was both fascinating and compelling. 

At this point in time, Niall and I are eagerly planning on homeschooling. Chapter 24 discusses homeschool as an alternative to attending a Classical Christian School. Douglas Wilson presented common problems he has observed in homeschools. I felt that they were reasonable criticisms, and good issues to be aware of and to avoid as we seek to educate our children at home. This chapter alone was inestimably valuable!

The one disappointment this book left me with was the author's tone. While he was very engaging, witty, and sometimes even funny; at times I found that Mr.Wilson bordered on cynicism and even rudeness when discussing view points opposing his own. Every once and awhile I felt mildly offended and had to take a quick pause to renew my mind and receive it graciously. This only happened occasionally though, and over all I would highly recommend it- I just wanted to warn you of this before you picked it up so that you didn't think I was okay with it :)!

Do you homeschool (or plan on homeschooling)? What educational approach have you adopted?

Tuesday, July 3, 2012

For Women Whose Motherhood Journey has Been Hard

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As follow-up to last week's post, I just wanted to tie up a few loose ends that have been rolling around in my head.

I challenged mom's who've had it easy to stop complaining. To remember that conception, pregnancy and delivery isn't uncomplicated for everyone, and to be sensitive to women around them who might be hurting.

But there is something important for the hurting woman to remember.

If I hadn't lost my first child to miscarriage, I too would have assumed that every mom experiences the joy of hearing a beating heart in the first trimester.

Even though I did lose my first baby to miscarriage, I still complained about my exhaustion and nausea in the first trimester with my second. Because even though I didn't take my child's life for granted, feeling so yucky was very trying in those moments.

If I hadn't gone into preterm labor with S, I would have complained at 40 weeks about my heartburn, and sleepless nights, and constant discomfort.

If I hadn't known the agony of two months in the NICU, I would have continued to assume that babies are always healthy and colic is the worst ever thing that could happen to a new mom.

If I hadn't had an emergency C-section, I would have continued to look down my nose at the women who didn't do it the "natural" (and thus, obviously better) way. Oh, my horrid pride. I would have whined about my 40 hours of labor, the pain of recovery, and the ensuing sleepless nights.

Even when you are hurting, it is important to remember that we are all sinners. As sinners, complaining and pride come easily to us.

If you're road had not been so painful and hard, you (in all likelihood) would have complained about the same things that grate on you coming from a mom whose road was easier.

The next time you hear her unburdening her "load" of a relatively normal pregnancy and birth, stop gritting your teeth, and take a deep breath.

Remember that if you were in her shoes, you might be saying the same insensitive things to some hurting woman, unaware of the pain you were causing.

Remember to be merciful. Ask the Lord for His grace, and that you might be able to show it to others.

What she is experiencing is difficult, and in moments of personal difficulty, we tend to forget that others have difficulties of their own.

I guess my purpose in writing these posts has been to encourage a bit more love and understanding on both sides. This is my call to mutual sympathy and sensitivity. To rejoice with those who rejoice, and to weep with those who weep.

Monday, July 2, 2012

Monday's Resolution {Repentance}

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 We are picking apart Jonathan Edward's 70 Resolutions, one week and one resolution at a time. Don't forget to start where he did- "Being sensible that I am unable to do anything without God's help, I do humbly entreat Him by His grace to enable me to keep these Resolutions, so far as they are agreeable to His will, for Christ's sake."

3. Resolved, if ever I shall fall and grow dull, so as to neglect to keep any part of these Resolutions, to repent of all I can remember, when I come to myself again.


My paraphrase:

3. Resolved, if I ever slip and get lazy, failing to keep to any of these Resolutions, to repent of all the ways that I have slacked and/or sinned that I can remember, as soon as I realize that I have been slipping. 

For as long as we live, every single one of us will be battling against the Curse. Even the Redeemed sinner still sins- Christ has paid for our sins, and we will not ultimately be punished for them, yet we still sin. 


And as long as we are sinners battling the Curse, we will need repentance. Repentance is acknowledging our sin (calling it what God calls it!), asking for His forgiveness, and by His grace turning away from it, endeavoring after new obedience.

Our first hold up tends to be acknowledging sin for what it is, and calling it what God calls it. We have all sorts of new names for sin that justify it in our mind.

Gossip has become speaking the truth (even if it is unpleasant and unnecessary). Lying can come in many flavors and variations, and "white" ones are considered harmless. Angry outbursts and out-of-control emotions are blamed on our hormones (though these are contributing factors, we are still responsible before God to live self-controlled!). If I choose to become angry at something you did, it is your fault for making me angry.

The first step in repentance is blowing the whistle on your sin. "I did it, it was wrong, I have no excuse." Boy, does this require humility. It is so unpleasant to boldly proclaim that I am not perfect, I sin, and that my sin is ugly and messy.

Next we must ask for His forgiveness. The beautiful thing is that after we've confessed, He is faithful and just to forgive us of our sins (1 John 1:9). For those who have put total faith in Christ, there is now no more condemnation (Romans 8:1).

That means that I don't still have to slink around in guilt and misery after coming clean with the Lord. He will never bring up my sins again (see Psalm 103:10-14, so beautiful!!!), He chooses to forget them. When He looks at me, He sees the perfect righteousness and obedience of His Son Jesus Christ.

Finally, we must turn away from our sin, and endeavor after new obedience. This is the hardest part! I have recently (and slowly) been learning it in my own life. 

Lately I have really been struggling with impatience, rudeness, and selfishness towards my husband. I forget about the hard work he does all day, the gracious way he is seeking to lead our family spiritually, and his loving appreciation for me and all that I do.

So I get snappy and mouthy. Under my skin I start boiling as I count his offenses (read: little things he does that aren't even a little bit bad, but interpreted badly by me because of the nasty attitude I am filtering them through).

Even if I don't say anything (which inevitably, I always do), he can feel the frost oozing from my sour expression and silence.

After "apologizing" (read: expressing worldly sorrow over the consequences of my behavior, namely an unhappy relationship with my husband) for the gazillionth time last night, my husband kindly reminded me that apologies are meaningless if I revert back to the same behavior only minutes after expressing my sorrow.

Real repentance means I stop treating him that way. That I realize my selfishness for what it is, confess before God and Niall, asking their forgiveness, and then doing the opposite thing. Loving Niall more than myself, being thankful for such a great and loving husband, and treating him with gentleness and kindness.

Repentance isn't easy, which is why, with Jonathan Edwards, we need to humbly entreat God by His grace to help and enable us for it.

Are you Resolved to Repent?



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